HOW TO SET GOALS: The Ultimate Guide for High Achievers & Over thinkers Pt. 5

Today we’re going to talk about how to be perfect in achieving your goals. We’re continuing our goal setting series for overthinkers and high achievers. How to set goals without overwhelm and how to deal with perfectionism. This is part 5. Be sure to check out parts 1-4 and where we’ve talked about the courage to set BHAG (big hairy audacious goals), telling the truth, having mental endurance to achieve your goals and being resilient.

In case this is your first video or blog post here are the overall steps:

• Have courage to admit what you want
• Be detailed oriented about what you want
• Have endurance and don’t give up
• Be resilient 
• Focus on perfection

The word perfect gets a bad rap. No one criticizes sports  teams that have  a perfect season or an athlete has a perfect record. But for academics, we have associated  perfection with getting straight A’s. While one definition of perfect is to be without fault or flawless there is another part of the definition that gets overlooked. One definition, the one we are going to focus on from now on is to satisfy all requirements. 

When it comes to achieving goals, you have to be perfect. You have to satisfy all requirements to know that you have accomplished what you planned to do. Now, this is different from perfectionism which often paralyzes you into overthinking, tricks you into having  self-defeating thoughts and masking ridiculously high standards and goals as showing up in excellence. All of this causes you to be out of alignment and in a low vibration to receive anything.  

I’m going to make a controversial statement and say that being  perfect at goal setting is needed. This goes back to your benchmarks and how often you are executing on your daily tasks. Example: If you plan to exercise 3x a week and you achieved all three days, then you had a perfect week. If you set out to write 2 hours a day for your next book and you did it for a week straight, perfect. We aren’t grading ourselves on being error-free to determine if we get an A. Some days you may not have worked out with full intensity but you got up and put forth effort. Maybe you only wrote a paragraph in those 2 hours a few days out of the week but you stayed at your computer until time was up, that’s still a perfect week.

I will say that don’t get trapped by the “effort” monster either. There are times when effort can show up as being lazy.

Here is my advice on how to create your perfect week for YOU and how to set yourself up for success. In case you’re wondering why it’s important to focus on meeting all requirements instead of the end results.

You showcase your progress not to brag, instead it helps to:

• Keep you accountable to yourself for yourself 
• Get the support and encouragement from others (we all like a little applause).
• Show yourself that you can accomplish what you thought was impossible and have made significant progress towards the impossible requirements. 
•  Create affirmations for yourself to make sure that negative self-talk  doesn’t get loud cause you to doubt yourself. 

Remember, you’ve done what you used to think was impossible before and now it’s time to transfer those skills and that energy to other areas of your life. 

I would love to hear from you. Tell me your best tip or which one of my tips resonated with you.

NOTE – When you’re ready:

1. Book a curious connection call with me.
2. Watch the full video of Episode 5 here.
3. Read my latest book for more tips and strategies about dealing with perfectionism.

You can always continue to watch my videos and follow me on all social media platforms. 

I believe we can heal the nation through education and transformation but it starts with your own healing first. I honor you and I love you.

Remember the world needs you to Be Well. Be Empowered. Be Bold. Be Brilliant.

Until next time,

~Dr. V